Friday, March 15, 2013

The World has this Wrong

I was confused with how to answer this question. Do I get spiritual? Does it have to be something including me? Is it something I have wrong as well? I was wondering how I would answer what popular notion that I think the world has most wrong for the 30 things my kids should know about me. Seeing as this list is about me, I decided that it must be something that I am included in. Recently I got into a heated argument over Twitter with what I feel was the most ignorant woman in the world. I know that this may sound harsh or rude, but she just didn't get it. It was on the topic of stay-at-home moms (SAHM).

She was saying that SAHMs don't really work. I used to think this to be true, until I actually became one. I used to think, "how awesome! Sit home, watch TV, relax all day!" Definitely not the case. Being a SAHM has been one of the hardest jobs I have ever had. I thought staying home would be relaxing and comforting, but I have gotten to the point where some days I just need to get out of my house to get away from my job. Could you imagine staying at your job 24/7?! It's not as appealing when you look at it that way. Then I spend all day cleaning and by the end of the day, it doesn't look like I have done a damn thing (thank you toddlers).

Anyway, I think that numerous people think that staying home with your child isn't a real job. We argued back and forth and she was asked why a daycare provider or nanny is considered to be working but when it is your own children it isn't. I think that until you actually are in the position of being a SAHM, you cannot really judge whether or not it is actually working. I have worked as a daycare provider and numerous other jobs and I believe that being a SAHM is one of the toughest.

While yes it is one of the most rewarding and I wouldn't want to be doing anything else, it is difficult to not see a light at the end of the tunnel for the day. Most people get to leave their jobs to come enjoy just being home. I am constantly surrounded by the same people, same scenery, and same list of things to do. I usually do not have time to complete everything because I have the biggest set of daredevil toddlers to care for. And then that daunting to do list runs through my head as I am trying to sleep. Again, I wouldn't want to be doing anything else at this time, but is is exhausting. Definitely not the relaxing all day like I originally thought.